What is happiness? It’s the absence of fear and pain. But how do we get there? How do we reach happiness? Well the safest way of not being very miserable is to not expect that much in life. Then you shall be happy
When you constantly work at something and become a perfectionist. Something always needs to be improved upon which means nothing is never good enough.
I think the only way of trying to get out of this mindset is positive affirmations to slowly click into your mind since you have been growing up with a set of characteristics and changing your views in this way cannot simply be done. It takes practice and years of reminding yourself each day.